Shanti The Brave

Yesterday, I posted about the grief we are processing as a family, the horrible loss Shanti is currently experiencing. This is real, and it is awful, but it’s not the whole story. Shanti is also the bravest person I know.

Shanti said yes to adoption, before she met us or knew who we were, when many many many of her friends said no.

A photo of Shanti taken in October, before we met her.

A photo of Shanti taken in October, before we met her.

Shanti again said yes to adoption in front of a judge, even though the thought of court was a horribly frightening prospect.

The first photo ever taken of us as a legal family -- snapped outside the courthouse, just a few moments after the judge read her decision granting us the right to be Shanti's parents.

The first photo ever taken of us as a legal family — snapped outside the courthouse, just a few moments after the judge read her decision granting us the right to be Shanti’s parents.

Shanti said yes to adoption, even though saying yes cost her some friendships among her orphanage siblings, several of whom were angry that she made the decision to leave.

Shanti receiving birthday wishes from one of her best friends (who is not one of the children upset because Shanti said yes; this girl is also being adopted, and we're going to see her again in just a few months! Hooray!)

Shanti receiving birthday wishes from one of her best friends (who is not one of the children upset because Shanti said yes)

Shanti said yes to adoption, even though it means leaving every person she has ever known and traveling to a foreign land with two people she barely knows (and can’t talk to).

Shanti and Arturo in the snow after our appointment to apply for Shanti's passport

Shanti and Arturo in the snow after our appointment to apply for Shanti’s passport

Shanti said yes to adoption, even though it requires three plane flights to get home. She’s never been on a plane, but she’s told us she is afraid of them from day 1.

This photo was taken just two days after we met Shanti, and I can see her tentativeness in the photo -- not completely sure yet whether or not we can be trusted, but certainly willing to give it a try.

This photo was taken just two days after we met Shanti, and I can see her tentativeness in the photo — she’s not completely sure yet whether or not we can be trusted, but she’s certainly willing to give it a try.

I know that, as her mother, I am biased, but I can’t imagine many 12 year old girls would have the courage to do what Shanti has done. She is brave, and she is an inspiration. I am so stinkin’ proud of this daughter of mine.

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6 comments

  1. Viviane says:

    Hi,

    We are an adoptive family in Cincinnati as well. I just found your blog via RR and wanted to say congrats and welcome home, Shanti.

    I am not sure if Shanti is of Roma descent, but if so, we have a pretty large reunion here in Cincinnati every summer of children adopted mostly from Bulgaria and many of them with Roma roots. It’s a great group. If you’re interested in more info, feel free to email me. I am one of two co-organizers of the event which is in June.

    Happy New Year,

    Viviane

  2. Julia Nalle says:

    I saw that brave girl in Kiev. Love this!! I really love this!!

  3. She is so brave and beautiful and graceful.

    I’m so glad to see that she is on her way home.

    I wish so much that you were coming home with a sibling set, but, that they both have families that will love and care for them is a good thing too!

  4. Elana Gartner Golden says:

    And these kinds of things are definitely worth reminding her of.

  5. Darlene Koop says:

    Yes, she is very brave, loving and beautiful of spirit — God has blessed both her and you by bringing you together as a family! Please pass the following message on to your sweet daughter! I miss your smiling faces but I am thankful for God’s goodness to you and we will keep in touch!

    Шанти, ты дорогая девочка и я скучаю по тебя, но я очень благодарна Богу за Его любовь и милость к тебе! Я люблю тебя и молюсь за тебя и твою семью! Дарлин

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